An Unusual Experience..!!!!!
We are in an age,where at least in India, our parents are worried about marriages, And the whole exercise starts as we turn 20...At least that happens at our place..And it keeps on happening till the time they don't find a "Perfect" match for us....Mannnn....!!!!! Perfect sounds so imperfect....are they really a perfect matches...then why do we always end...checking out more then one person.....It becomes a matter of Soul mates then soul mate....
And for surprise,this not only happens with a girl,but also for guys.....the moment they complete their studies....entire process starts with a bang....
Discussing with friends and relatives......not only those people...but you will find parents discussing about the same with random people...and when it comes to marriage...these random people become child hood friends....Don't know what is so extra ordinary about it. Now the generation has changed..people are becoming independent,but still this one thing called "marriage" we are still dependent on our parents...or rather I should say...we are forced to be dependent on them....May be I do not belong to the same category,as my parents have given me enough freedom to choose my Life Partner....but it does not happens with everyone....
Two examples form my home....
Example First:
My cousin (sister).....only a few months elder to me...has been forced to get married to any random guy for last 5years....Absolute random guys come to our place......eat, waste our time and then leave...and whats the result..a big "No"......reason.....nobody knows...and I am sure...even god will be blank if we will ask him.....
Man....people at my place spent like anything...good food,good clothes......new curtains and this and that...Yaaaaiiikkksssss......!!!!!!
Can't do much about it...
Now another incident...actually it happened recently.....Another cousin (this time brother)....who is been forced to get married...because of family situations.....na na....family situations doesn't mean that they r not financially strong or something....but things and issues like Grand parents age and stuff.....all random shit...like how can you force anyone to get married when he or she is not prepared for it.... Anyways....Some other relative or some relative found a girl for him.......actually neither was he interested not ready for all the things... and parents and grand parents called them for lunch....man,can you imagine..the guy even didn't know the name of the girl..neither he checked out her picture...but was asked to take a final decision about his life with her...They came....checked our house...had food...talked random things....praised themselves....waise not only him....people from our side are nowhere lesser to them..so they also...shared extreme random things....and praises were going on and on and on and on......now imagine......was a real torture it was for the rest of the people like me...who had nothing to do with the entire so called "ceremony"...anyways, it came to an end...but jaate jaate...they invited us for the evening tea...to see and meet the girl.....like was that really required to call everyone...or what that really required for everyone to go....
Anywys,we were not and can never be the decision makers....but then....ok leave it...anyways, we went to their place.....had loads of food...man can you imagine...hey kept on placing plates with things...throughout.....
Anyways...finally they asked the boy and girl to talk and understand each other....like in just two minutes they are going to tell eachother almost everything about themselves....but anyways....but our Indian culture says that its a tradition...god knows who believes in such traditions now...
But anywys...they chatted....for an hour.....and during the session.....sometimes....from our side, or others side...people used to go to the room and disturb both of them....Man imagine that conversation was unending..they went for a drive and blah and blah and blah and blah.....
it went on and on and on and on......
Anyways, hall I tell you the result as well.....
Same as above.........
No result.....
As we say..No news is the best news.........so same was the case with the result,atleast for the people who were associated with the entire thign...."No result is the best result"....
Even we went like random people....ate food....wasted time...and came back......
But still, I don't understand.....do all these really required....man even i believe its all stupid and waste of time and money....
Anyways..people may not agree with me...but thats my personal statement or perspective toward things.....
:)
Confusing superficial ideas....
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HI,
i completely agree with the views you have towards the "Scenario"..
but good to know that the fairer sex has some strong opinions, cause my personal experience says that even today , after spending minimum three years of graduation, most of the girls have their eyes set on marriage.. they just cant think beyond that.. no ambition to create a unique identity for themselves, even though they may have all the opportunities..
the behaviour of elders can be blamed upon the usual generation gap, but i personally believe that its some sort of hidden feeling of getting rid of your responsibilities that forces them to act this way..
and i have also observed that guys are under this pressure too, even when he understands that 20 something is not an age for any marital commitment, but its difficult to make the family understand...
heck... there has to be a solution..
hii neeti.... read ur posts. Must say its is the 'girliest' blog i have ever seen ( the flowers and all pink).
Neway as about the posts,I must say I am very very inexperienced in this subject. The last marriage i attended was in 4th standard!! Since then it has been either Xth std exams or boards or JEE or some other heavenly conspiracy to keep me away from good food and the looks on the face of the scapegoat.
There is another funny aspect about these arranged marriages, how rude must it look on rejecting or getting rejected because it clearly shows:
1) U suck!!
2) the middle man who got the two of us to meet also sucks. And he or she may be a close relative and expecting an image of some cupid out of the whole thing
3)the whole system and tradition which prefers the two to meet each other at home between a 100 guests because the parents don't have confidence on their child or they aren't sure what will the guy do if they are given an opportunity to meet alone... sucks
guess... I dont need to attend marriages to have an opinion about them :)
but nice post, thnx for the compliment and do hit upon 'what u shudn't have missed on thoughtspot' section for some of the most popular posts
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